You probably don't realize how much the energy around you affects your deep biology, but you are probably aware of how it affects your nervous and emotional systems because of the reactions you feel.
I have read about those whom psychologists consider to be the HSP: the Highly Sensitive Person. Highly sensitive does not mean emotionally weak. When you explain to people that you are "highly sensitive" they seem to interpret that to mean you can't handle judgment or some other psychological situation, that you are abnormal compared to other people in that way. But this is untrue.
In a nutshell, the Highly Sensitive personality is described as a highly creative person who is bothered by excessive external stimulation and chaotic situations, someone who has a rich inner life and who appreciates art and beauty, but who feels overwhelmed by things in the world that most others do not. This includes loud noises, strong fragrances, certain kind of lighting, lots of activity around them, and too much activity in a short span of time. These are all environmental stimuli that bombard HSPs in a way that forces them to retreat into their own private spaces to regain equilibrium.
I consider myself to be an HSP, but I don't like the term. I don't like the immediate feeling of being misunderstood when people hear the term because of its wording, and I don't think the term conveys the whole story. So I think there is a more applicable term, at least for me: ESP...or "Extra Sensitive Person."
To me, defining myself as an "Extra Sensitive Person" conveys that there is a greater element involved, an energetic element, in the classification. That it has less to do with psychology and more to do with environmental factors and the biology. I think people can make that leap much easier if they hear ESP versus HSP. They'll know when I say that I am an ESP that it has to do with my relationship to the world around me — my interaction with it — and is not limited to my mental or emotional reaction to it. Because, contrary to the psychological judgments some would make about sensitive people, these sensitives are often much stronger emotionally or mentally than you would believe.
For many ESPs, the sensitivity goes beyond the lighting, noises, smells and chaotic scenes of the worldly situations they find themselves in. The overall vibe of a social situation, whether positive or negative, can affect them biologically. Natural energies from events like earthquakes, solar flares, the weather and moon phases create challenges in the lives of ESPs. And spiritual energies — that is, sensitivities to energies from unseen realms — can impact ESPs who are strong empaths. Empathy means you can feel emotions from others, whether they are living or in spirit. Put all of these things together and you can see how an ESP is dealing with a lot of external stimuli on a daily basis.
Because the ESP is aware of all these visible and invisible factors, they can tap into everything they need to be creative and present art, music and other gifts to the world. But you can also see how it forces them to require alone time for themselves in order to turn down the "noise" and maintain balance.
So here are a few tips for dealing with those you meet who may be ESPs:
- Respect their personal boundaries and don't be offended if they ask for extra time or physical space for themselves.
- Know that they may be more affected than others by fragrances, certain foods, the bass vibration of the stereo, strong sunlight or fluorescent lighting, and may feel effects after being exposed. So don't spray cologne or chemicals around them, be aware of their allergies, turn down the music for them, and let them be in the low lighting or protect their eyes if they need to.
- Don't think it's overly strange if they want to leave a place without explanation. It is probably impacting them in some way. For instance, they might say, "I have to leave this place, it just feels too weird to me." They may be feeling an uncomfortable physical reaction but cannot explain why. (Some may know exactly why but will only explain it to people they trust.)
- If you give them a lot to do in a short span of time, don't pressure them more. Let them handle things in their own way. It may mean they can't work as well in a group setting, but you can count on them to do a great job if left to their own devices.
- Don't expect them to have the energy to party all night long with everyone else. Long stretches of external stimulation and exposure to a variety of human energies can suck the life out of ESPs. If they manage to survive a long night of merrymaking, they won't be able to do it again the next night, or for a few nights. Plan accordingly.
- ESPs have little tolerance for lower vibration experiences, and that means situations that have to do with disrespect, violence, lack of integrity, civil unrest, all the negativity you see in the news. So don't be surprised if they don't want to debate politics or war, watch murder and crime shows, hang out in a seedy bar, work for slave driver type bosses, or participate in petty arguments.
I hope this gives some insight into the life of an ESP. If you relate to this post, I am glad you found it helpful. If you are uncertain about what I wrote, just know that there is more to this world than what our five senses acknowledge, and that people exist who are Extra Sensitive enough to be able to reveal the hidden parts of life to others.
This article Copyright © Cheryl E. Kraynak